On the Day
What to Expect on the Day of the Funeral
1. What To Do When Somebody Dies2. Register the Death3. Understand Wills, Funeral Wishes4. Notify Government5. Help with Pay6. Burial or Cremation?7. Funeral Service and Venue8. Personalise the Service9. On the Day10. After the funeral
A. The Arrival and Procession
The beginning of the funeral often involves transportation of your loved one to the starting location.
- The procession usually starts at a public act of remembrance.
- Transport options include a traditional black hearse with matching limousines or alternatives such as horse-drawn carriage, motorcycle hearse, or VW campervan.
B. The Funeral Service
The service is the formal tribute and can take place in a church, crematorium chapel, natural burial ground, or other suitable venue.
- The officiant selected by your family leads the service, which begins by pallbearers bringing your loved one inside the service location - pallbearers can be appointed from family and friends, if you would like.
- An order of service guides music, readings, eulogy, and the committal.
- Music and readings can include traditional or modern choices and personal tributes.
- The eulogy can be delivered by the officiant, a family member, or a friend.
C. Personal Touches and Atmosphere
Funerals are increasingly personalised. On the day, this may include dress code requests, custom floral tributes, memory stations, or charity-focused alternatives to flowers.
D. The Wake/Reception (Post-Funeral Gathering)
Following the formal service, attendees may gather for a wake or reception in an informal setting to share memories, support one another, and eat and drink.
A Final Note on Taking Care of Yourself
- Ask for help and delegate tasks where possible - ask your funeral director; our role is to help you as much as we can. Allow us to ease some of the burden.
- Take breaks and accept practical support.
- Seek emotional support from friends, family, or bereavement services when needed.